Wellness Wednesday: Strategies to Increase Self-Esteem in Your Children


All parents have different parenting styles, but all parents have the same goal to raise happy, healthy and confident kids.


For this week’s Wellness Wednesday, AY About You sits down with Lauren English, a licensed professional counselor and business development representative with Pinnacle Pointe Hospital, for tips on how to raise kids who are aware of their self-esteem.


English advises that the first preliminary step is to talk to your child and explain what self-esteem is. True self-esteem consists of recognizing your limits, but having the courage to approach challenges anyway. This sets kids up for success.


Create a safe, supportive, and accepting environment 

This means acknowledging the legitimacy of your kids’ emotions and letting them work through these emotions themselves.


Stop shielding your children from failure 

English acknowledges that it can be tempting to rush in and protect your child when they fail, but shielding them from making mistakes can stunt their ability to handle problems in the future and in adulthood.


Praise effort, not perfection

Parents should set realistic examples of expectations for their children. Additionally, parents can create a hardworking child by focusing on the effort put into a goal rather than the accomplishment of that goal. Praise the fact that your children have put a great amount of time and effort into a task, not the end goal. This will allow kids to feel pride in their hard work.


Set boundaries and stay consistent 

The more children learn about positive and negative consequences, the more they’ll understand the impact of their behavior. Discipline gives children confidence in their decisions through the understanding of potential outcomes.


Avoid overindulging 

Teach kids that it’s possible to get what they want if they earn it. This prevents entitlement and teaches self-discipline. 


Let your child feel their emotions 

While we often want to shield our children from negative emotions that they may feel, it’s important to let them feel the full extent of emotions in a healthy space, so that children can better work through how to handle these emotions. Additionally, how you react to your child’s emotions impacts their own emotional intelligence and development. 


Children with an understanding of their self-esteem are resilient and are prepared to go out into today’s world without the fear of failure.



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