Good Will: Gifts of the Heart

Paul and Becky Owen
 

Somewhere in Little Rock, a 41-year-old woman is alive because another Little Rock woman, Melissa Owen, registered as an organ donor on her Arkansas driver’s license. Somewhere in Arizona and in New York, two additional women are living because of lungs they received from Melissa Owen.

Photography by Janet Warlick

 

Melissa Owen

Melissa Owen

Melissa was just 38 years old when she suffered a brain aneurysm on Dec. 23, 2014. It happened suddenly.

Her mother, Becky Owen had spent the morning with her daughter. They had taken Melissa’s son, Wesley, for his driver’s test. Melissa complained of a headache and wanted to go home and rest. Within two hours, Melissa had the aneurysm.

“I never got to speak with her again,” Becky Owen said of her daughter.

Melissa died the next day, and that Christmas day three women in three states received gifts that would save their lives.

What made the decision about her donation so much easier for Melissa’s parents and son was that Melissa had registered as an organ donor on her driver’s license and talked about it openly.

“ARORA [Arkansas Regional Organ Recovery Agency] reps came to us, and they were amazingly gentle and kind,” Melissa’s father, Paul Owen, said. “There was no pressure whatsoever. It had already been decided by Melissa, and that was a great gift. She was able to offer five different organs, but we know of just the three women.”

This month is National Donate Life Month, and ARORA hopes to raise awareness of how organ and tissue donation can enhance and save lives.

On April 27, ARORA will host its second annual Function at the Clinton Junction Bridge Party and Fun Walk. The family friendly event includes live music, food trucks and children’s activities. Last year, participants walked across the bridge, from Little Rock to North Little Rock, for a balloon release and heard from donors’ families and organ recipients.

“The whole purpose is to get people together in a fun and festive atmosphere and give them very important information about tissue and organ donation and give them the opportunity to register to become donors,” said Audrey Coleman, director of communications for ARORA.

The Owen family plans to attend again this year and has benefited from the fellowship with other families of donors and recipients. They’re also part of the Arkansas Donor Family Council, which provides support to donor families.

“It’s opened a whole new world that we didn’t know existed,” said Paul, who is the children’s minister at Trinity United Methodist Church in Little Rock. “You don’t know, until you’re in it, just how many people are affected.”

Paul and Becky Owen

Paul and Becky Owen

Nationally, 125,000 people are waiting for organs, including about 378 Arkansans. Of those Arkansans: 246 need kidneys; 44 need hearts; 40 are waiting for livers; and 48 need heart/lung combinations.

“There is a constant need,” Coleman said. “The number of people waiting for organs far exceeds the number of available organs.”

Last year, 25,770 transplants were performed nationally, including 110 organ transplants in Arkansas. Heart and kidney transplants are performed at Arkansas Children’s Hospital. Baptist Medical Center only performs heart transplants, and kidney and liver transplants are performed at University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences. Physicians at hospitals throughout the state provide tissue transplants to patients.

More than half of Arkansas drivers are registered as organ donors. What most people don’t realize is that only 1 percent of people die in a manner that allows them to become a donor. Under right conditions, a person who suffers brain death in a hospital may be eligible because the flow of oxygen to organs has not been interrupted. One donor can potentially save or enhance the lives of more than 100 people.

In recent years, procedures along with the success rate of transplants, have improved. For an ideal match, donors and recipients must be geographically close enough so that the organ remains healthy during transport. Doctors have up to 18 hours to transplant kidneys, but a heart must be transplanted within four hours. Typically, a donor heart will go to someone in the same state or a surrounding state because of time constraints.

In Melissa’s case, her heart went to a woman in the same city.

“We know there’s another person who is thriving and carrying on with life, and may have her own family, because of Melissa and the hope she gave,” Paul said.

The Owens hope to someday meet the women who received Melissa’s organs.

Now that a year has passed, the Owen family can write a letter for ARORA to keep on file, expressing their desire to meet the recipients. Should the women who received Melissa’s organs express similar interest, such a meeting may be possible.

For now, the Owens are grateful for the gift of knowing that life emerged from their tragedy.

“She was a loving and giving person,” Becky said of her daughter. “You never know when something like this is going to happen. It’s a situation I wouldn’t wish on anyone. She was a young woman. She should still be here, but God works in mysterious ways.”

Clinton Junction Bridge Party & Fun Walk
April 27 / 5:30 to 7:30 p.m.
Clinton Presidential Center
1200 Pres. Clinton Ave. / Little Rock
arora.org

8 Comments

  1. by Anonymous on April 2, 2016  11:37 am

    Super good article. I taught w Paul at
    Bryant High School. He was loved by
    Faculty and the student body. Thanks
    sclark1434@yahoo.com. Sherry Clark

  2. by Nanch on April 2, 2016  8:16 pm

    I love Paul and Becky so much. Mr. Paul and Miss Becky were such a gift to my family. Their kindness toward my daughter through the years bring tears to my eyes even now. I will make sure that my driver's license specifies that I am an organ donor.

  3. by Candy M on April 2, 2016  10:43 pm

    What a blessing for the Owens to know that Melissa's heart beats on. An amazing gift from a truly wonderful family.

  4. by Anonymous on April 5, 2016  11:33 am

    Mr. Owen was my Speech & Drama teacher at Bryant High School and he was absolutely the most amazing teacher, mentor and man. This selfless act on behalf of his daughter is not surprising as I am sure his method of parenting instilled the same (if not more) countless life lessons I learned by being in his class. He is a true inspiration.

  5. by Teri Cox on April 5, 2016  7:51 pm

    One of the most impactful teachers I ever had; Paul Owen. Mr. Owen was a gift to those of us who walked through his classroom door, at Bryant High School. Speech and drama was not just a class, it was an experience.

    Paul and Becky LOVED Melissa, so well. She knew her parents were in her corner, each and every day. It is no surprise that this family chose to passing along the gift of life.

    As a sibling of a donor recipient and the widow of a giver, I know firsthand the joy and the pain, but it's a gift with infinite gratitude.

    Thanks for the beautiful story about a family who is loved, more than they know.

    Dr. Teri Turley-Cox

  6. by Gary Reeves on April 5, 2016  8:44 pm

    This is horrible tragedy with a silver lining for those that will live on because of a choice and sacrifice made by a beautiful woman with a huge heart! My thoughts and prayers go out to the Owen family. But as you well know that choice gave life to many others. She will live on in your hearts along with her gifts to others! God bless!

  7. by Michelle Hicks-Carnahan on April 5, 2016  9:50 pm

    What an awesome story and a great tribute to life. Mr. Owen was one of those fantastic teachers that made a huge difference in my life and I am so happy to see this tragedy result in such a special gift to others. I imagine his daughter was much like her Dad...a great inspiration to others. I am so touched by this story.

  8. by Gena Thompson on April 6, 2016  8:35 am

    This family has been and always will be amazing. As a student of Mr. Owen, at Bryant High School he will never know the impact Speech and Drama had on my life. So sorry for their pain but not surprised of the gift of life they bestow on others.

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